6.4.09

I bid you a fond farewell, Mr. Eddings. Your books first shaped my perception of fantasy fiction from age 10, and you will be missed.

Also, Wild, luv, I send you hugs. While not as distressing or not quite the same as a loss of a human relative is, losing a beloved pet is not ever easy. You have my thoughts too.

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ETA 6-2-09: Yes, because addressing only your 'current' watchers TOTALLY justifies you being a complete ass.

PS: You were still a douche to the people trying to help. Also, I'd still -be- one of your actual watchers if you hadn't banned me from your dA. Go ahead. Justify all you want. You're still an assclown.

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I hate calling people out on my journal, usually. But there is a very specific kind of fuckery that demands it. I keep running across it lately and it makes me borderline incoherent with vulgar, profane, name-calling RAEG. Thus, read this profanity-sscattered rant at your own risk. If your eyes burst into flame, I claim no responsibility.

Oh my god. Fuck you. Fuck you, you ungrateful, horrible, bitchy, pathetic excuse for a human being.

These people are not trying to fucking hurt you. They are trying to give you the god damn critique you asked for, you little asshole. Banning people from their page when they call you on your shitty, spoiled brat behavior doesn't do anything except prove what kind of ungrateful asshole you really are. You know who you are. And this little bullshit tantrum, this latest stunt of yours where you flip a shit on your journal and then hide the comments of everyone who has the sense to tell you that you're being a spoiled brat? Yeah. You're not fooling anyone. Ban me from commenting on your dA. You can't ban me from commenting on my own. And the words I said to you before were nothing in comparison to what I want to say to your face now. I tried to be helpful. I tried kindness. I tried unhurtful words. But you don't seem to fucking speak "grown up". So I will talk to you in your own language.

You're being a jackass. No one likes it. Critiques are meant to help you, you fucking moron. Critiques are assistance in order to improve your work. And the crowning statement:

If you ask for a fucking critique, you are going to get a fucking critique. If you want people to pat your ass and tell you that you're god, just say so. It's easier to be straightforward than it is to try and get people to read your mind.


Oh, and for those of you who want to know why I have the frothing incoherent raeg, here's my original comment:

""When I get a critique, I don't want to hear an entire book on everything I did wrong."

Rikku, luv, don't take this the wrong way, but...yeah, that's kind of not how critiques work, luv. A critique by nature most of the time -is- a litany of what we did wrong. But what you don't seem to be remembering is that most people who are willing to take the time TO critique you are not doing it to hurt you. Someone who is willing to take a time to give you a thoughtful critique (one that most artists would probably kill for, by the way, if it's detailed enough) is someone who cares a great deal about you, your successes, your failures, your overall improvement.

Someone who would critique you so thoroughly wants you to succeed. Why assume it's an attack? Attacks are much more messy, more insulting, more deliberately hurtful. A good critique is to be cherished and appreciated; the person who gave it cares about you. Wants you to do well. Has ideas as to how you can do so. Critiques are not meant to be hurtful in their true capacity, they are meant to enrich us as artists and teach us that we can always improve, can always do better the next time. They are not meant to be personal attacks. There is a -huge- world of difference between the two. And given how many of the people I know who would want to critique you, they are not out to attack you. They want to help you learn and grow - in fact, part of your journal entry leads me to believe you KNOW this, and are just being angry because you kind of can't take the criticism you claim to want. Thicker skin than that is required in any branch of the art world - not everyone is going to love us, not everyone is going to hate us, but sometimes the people we love can hurt more, out of good intentions. Critiques can be hard to take and I totally understand not wanting one on a finished piece. If it's finished and probably not changing, there's not really a lot of point to a critique, imo. I'd rather have one on a sketch, too. Or a WIP of some sort, where I know there's a chance of changing things.

When it comes to a true helpful, patient, well-intentioned critique, thorough isn't the same as mean.

Just something to keep in mind.

<3,
Andi"


So next time you decide you want a critique, fucking mean it. Or don't waste the time of people who want to help you. It'll be easier for everybody involved.